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The Capital
Written by Theresa Winslow
January 2005
"Parents need to teach their infants how to SLEEP LIKE A BABY"
Kathleen McKevitt was fried.
After months of subsisting on two or three hours of intermittent
sleep a night while she and her husband tried to get their son,
Declan, to nod off, Ms. McKevitt was at her wits’ end.
“Everything you can think of, we tried, aside from standing
on my head to entertain him,” she said.
Then on a visit to her pediatrician, Ms. McKevitt heard about
Kim West, “The Sleep Lady”. At the time, Declan, now
2, was 11 months old and he’d been a problem sleeper for at
least half his young life.
It took about a month for things to improve after the McKevitts
met with Ms. West, but these days there are only pleasant dreams
for the entire family.
“She’s like one of my favorite people in the absolute
world,” Ms. McKevitt said earlier this week from her Crofton
home. “It’s worked wonders. I just think she’s
fantastic.” So do scores of other frazzled parents. Ms. West,
40, estimates she’d had more than 1,000 clients, both local
and from as far away as Bolivia, Mexico and Canada.
And she’ll probably get even busier now that her first book
is out. Released this month, “Good Night, Sleep Tight: The
Sleep Lady’s Guide to Helping Your Child go to Sleep, Stay
Asleep, and Wake Up Happy,” outlines the methods Ms. West
has honed over the past decade. The 350 page book, written with
journalist Joanne Kenen, has chapters on her “system”
for getting children to sleep, as well as specific sections arranged
by children’s ages. The book covers newborns to age 5.
“I feel so fortunate to be doing what I love,” said
Ms. West, a Severna Park resident.
A career as a sleep expert wasn’t something Ms. West ever
envisioned while growing up, or even when she started her practice
as a clinical social worker. When she was young, she just wanted
a career helping people.
Her foray into sleep began 10 years ago, when she witnessed the
problems her sister-in-law was having getting her son to sleep.
Ms. West was pregnant with her first child at the time and petrified
of what might be in store for her. To stave that off, she began
extensive research into sleep. All the preparation worked, and both
her children turned out to be good sleepers. Carleigh is now 10
and Gretchen is 7 ½.
Ms. West dedicated her book to her sister-in-law, whom she eventually
helped with her son’s sleep problems. That led to helping
friends, then friends of friends, and so on. About a year and a
half ago, her practice became all sleep, all the time.
“It’s pretty interesting. She always has a fresh supply
of newborns, even though it’s been years since we had our
own,” joked her husband, Bill West, who is the director of
Community Health and Wellness at Anne Arundel Medical Center.
“When Kim gets interested in something, she can become very
passionate about it,” he added. “(The Book) is just
fabulous. I can’t tell you how proud I am of her.”
Sweet Dreams
It’s kind of ironic, but The Sleep Lady rarely gets all
the shut-eye she needs.
Ms. West likes to get nine hours of sleep a night, but with the
new book, a blossoming practice, and TV and radio appearances, she’s
pretty busy. She’s not the least bit tired of sleep work,
though. Ms. West said she relishes her time with families.
She meets with some clients in person at her Arnold office, and
then does follow-ups by telephone. She’ll also do work strictly
by phone if people live too far away. She charges $125 an hour for
her services and typically works with families for three weeks.
During that time, she has an initial consultation with parents and
then stays in contact by telephone until the child’s sleep
habits improve.
Rather than coaching the babies, Ms. West is teaching parents
her methods, which involve patience, consistency, putting up a “united
front” of mother and father, and something she calls the “Sleep
Lady Shuffle.” The shuffle is her way of creating an independent
sleeper by gradually removing a parent from the process. “Putting
yourself to sleep is a learned skill,” she explains.
Aleece Sipe of Edgewater is a believer.
Ms. Sipe sought out Ms. West when her son Lucas was 11 months
old. He wasn’t napping or sleeping well at night. “I
was beside myself and I felt like I was a terrible mom,” Ms.
Sipe said.
But just two or three days after she started seeing Ms. West,
things started getting better. Lucas is now 20 months old. “I
would definitely recommend her to anybody,” a smiling Ms.
Sipe said when she visited Ms. West’s office last week to
catch up.
Before Ms. Sipe left, Ms. West signed a copy of book for her.
The inscription read: “Sleep tight, Kim West, The Sleep Lady.”
Tips to make bedtime better
Here are some tips from Kim West:
- Skipping naps and keeping children up later will cause early
rising, more wakings and poor sleep quality.
- Pay attention to your child’s “sleep window”
– when a child is naturally ready to fall asleep. If you
miss that natural opportunity, your child will be hard to calm
down.
- Put your child to bed drowsy but awake.
- Start introducing gentle sleep-shaping routines when your child
is an infant.
- When your child is 6 months old or older, encourage him to become
attached to a lovey – a special stuffed animal or blanket.
It makes a child feel safe and secure, particularly at bedtime
or when he wakes up at night.
- Children usually transition from two naps to one afternoon nap
between 15 and 18 months. Don’t transition them until they
sleep through the night.
- Moving from crib to bed before age 2 usually doesn’t solve
sleep problems, but increases them.
- Install room-darkening shades if your child wakes up too early
or has trouble napping. Also, consider using a white noise machine
or a fan if you live in a noisy home or neighborhood.
- If a new baby is coming, move the older child from crib to bed
at least two months before or four months after the birth of the
sibling to avoid feelings of displacement.
- Consistency counts. Whatever your game plan is, be consistent
at bedtime and for all night wakings. Also, give it time. Sleep
is a learned skill.
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