What to do After Controlled Crying Doesn’t Work

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  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady. In today’s video blog, I am going to answer Gayle’s question:   “What to do after controlled crying?”   Gayle wrote: “My almost 8-month old has responded reasonably well to a gradual extinction method of sleep training, i.e. controlled crying. We’re on day 40. “She was settling herself throughout the night by day 5 but still she has a night of waking every 3 or so nights sometimes with hours of crying. These awakenings seem to happen after 3 perfect nights of sleeping through and then she resumes to sleeping through the following night. I’ve read about extinction burst but how many bursts are normal? Because of this inconsistency, I’m conflicted as to whether to treat these awakenings like night 1 of sleep training and that her cry increase increments all over again which is very stressful after 40 nights. “But I’m also stressed about doing too much or more to settle her and undoing all of the... more

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How Much Should My Baby Cry During Sleep Coaching?

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  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady and in today’s video blog, I’m going to answer Megan’s question: “I purchased your book to use with my 7-month old. Tonight would be night 6 but I’m really struggling. My biggest question is how much to let him cry? He gets upset every night. I’m confused about whether to let him cry while I’m in the room or pick him up to calm. Help.” First, you absolutely can pick him up to calm him down. That is in the rules of The Shuffle in the 6 to 8-month chapter. Please go back and re-read that section of Good Night, Sleep Tight. I am wondering whether you followed the 10 steps to do before starting sleep coaching so that you can have a better success from night one?   It’s important that he has good naps everyday.   If you’re trying two naps with him in the crib and he doesn’t nap well, then you’ll need to have a backup nap plan. That third nap is just enough to help him so he’s not running on fumes at... more

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How to Recover from Sleep Speed Bumps

Traveling with children is something that we often can’t avoid, especially around the holidays, but once those holidays are over, how do we regain the good sleep habits that our children had BEFORE we changed everything up? It seems that no matter how hard you try to stick to your routine when you’re away from home, or celebrating with family, something comes up that throws a wrench into sleep. Sometimes it’s a time change, and other times, it’s just that baby doesn’t want to nap because of the change of venue or activity. Or possibly, you may have regressed out of desperation and started holding your baby back to sleep whenever she woke up in order to avoid waking a household of in-laws and parents. Whatever the reason, when you have children, vacation and travel are fun, but often exhausting. So how can you recover and reestablish a normal (and healthy) sleep routine? Hopefully you made sleep a priority on vacation, and will only need minor adjustments. Don't worry if you slid well off-track. You can get back on the sleep routine quickly and gently.   Explain the Change   Since bedtime and naptime may have shifted, it’s important to talk to your older children about the difference... more

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When Will My Baby’s Sleep Regression End?

If you’re asking yourself this question, chances are that you’ve been short on sleep, and so has your very cranky, sleep-fighting baby. Sleep regressions are difficult for all of us, but thankfully most children (not all, but most) don't experience every sleep regression. If they did, no one would sleep during the first two years! On the chance that you’re wondering whether your baby or toddler is currently going through a sleep regression, there are a few questions that you can ask yourself to help clarify: • Has your previous well-napped baby been refusing naps? • Did your baby recently learn a new skill (rolling over, sitting up, starting solids, crawling, walking, etc.)? • Has your baby been hungry more often than “normal”? • Is your baby close to one of the known ages for a sleep regression? Contrary to popular belief, sleep regressions don’t just “happen”. They usually occur in sync with a new skill, your baby’s development, or even a growth spurt. The most common months for sleep regressions are:   4 Months   Your baby is just realizing that there is a whole world around him. They’re starting to understand that those are THEIR feet, and that mom is a... more

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Why isn’t My Baby Sleeping?

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  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady. In today’s video, I’m going to answer Jen’s question:   “Hi, hoping you can help. My daughter will be 6-months old in September and is exclusively breastfed. She is my second. She’s on a good schedule and is in bed by 8:30ish. At 3 months, I broke her night feeding and she took a paci. At 4 months, I had stopped swaddling her because she would sleep – she would flip over under her stomach and now, she sleeps soundly in her stomach. She’s been doing well for the past couple of months only waking one or two times a night. I go in and give her the paci and walk out. I don’t engage her. “Then we went on vacation last her week where her pack ‘n' play was in our room so she would wake and be inconsolable. I got into the bad habit of feeding her because nothing else worked whether (SL: that’s super common, we have to do whatever we can while on vacation). We’ve been home for a few days and she’s not sleeping... more

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Help! My Baby Wakes Up Constantly Throughout the Night

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Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog! If you would rather read than watch my above video then here is the transcript of this week's video all about how to handle it when your baby wakes up all night: Hi, I'm Kim West, the Sleep Lady and in this video blog I'm gonna answer this mom's question: “My daughter has turned just seven months old and has never slept through the night. Her problem is not going to sleep at bed time in her crib. Her problem is that she's constantly waking up through the night between 7 and 10 times. Sometimes she wakes up every 30 minutes to an hour and after 10pm she wakes up every two hours. “And if I put her down in her crib, it's even worse. As soon as I leave the room, within 5 minutes, she wakes up. When she was 5 months old after reading a book, I tried letting her cry. She finally fell asleep after two hours but within a 5-minute window, she woke up and started crying again. I want and need to sleep coach desperately but I don't know what to do. All the books and all other parents only talk... more

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7 Baby Sleep Mistakes Parents Make

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As parents we aren’t given an instruction manual with our baby, but wouldn’t that be nice? Just imagine all of the second-guessing and baby sleep mistakes we could avoid! The doctor delivers your baby, the nurse hands you the instruction booklet, detailing out exactly how to raise her. Instead, we get the baby, some flowers, and are left to wade through advice and suggestions, basically, we are left to figure it out as we go along. Sleep is one of many puzzles that new parents need to resolve, and it’s a daunting task. Before baby, you were able to sleep a full 8 hours each night with limited interruptions, and sleeping in was a normal part of life. With the arrival of a new baby, you are suddenly up in the middle of the night…multiple times. Baby needs to be fed, changed, and soothed back to sleep regardless of whether it’s 2 in the morning or the afternoon. The first few months can be daunting, and many parents feel immobilized by shame, guilt and sometimes blame and don't know where to start to change their child’s sleep habits. This is compounded by parents natural tendancy to compare their babies to others in regards to sleep. This comparison causes unrealistic expectations of your own baby, as all... more

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Baby & Toddler Sleep Problems: None of My Children Sleep!

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Would you like to have me answer your sleep question in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog! If you would rather read than watch my above video then here is the transcript of this week's video: Hi! Kim West, The Sleep Lady. And today, I’m going to answer Runa’s question. She wrote in with the following. “I have a six-month-old and a 27-month-old. My 27-month-old starts out every night in his crib but wakes up at some point in the wee hours and comes in to our bed and finishes out the night and the morning there. We started this when I was pregnant with number two and was too tired to deal. Last night, I woke up to find him in our bed. He just started climbing out of his crib. My six-month-old has been in a co-sleeper and has slept all night 8:00 to 6:00 until recently. She also used to suck her thumb to help her go to sleep and now, she just cries. We thought about getting another crib versus transitioning my son to a bed and putting my daughter in the crib. They will share a room so she has been napping in his room. Please help. Where do I start? You’re right, Runa, you have... more

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Trouble Shooting The Sleep Lady Shuffle

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  Would you like to have me answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   If you would rather read than watch my above video then here is the transcript of this week's question about The Shuffle: Hi. I'm Kim West, The Sleep Lady. Today, I’m going to answer Genona’s question. Here’s what she wrote in, “Hello, Sleep Lady. My baby girl’s 10-months-old and we’ve been doing The Shuffle for a week now. In fact, tonight is going to be our 8th night! My daughter had a very strong nurse to sleep association. I was  waking up 8-10 times each night to get her back to sleep. I was so very sleep-deprived that I could not finish a sentence, eat, or do anything but dream about just a few hours of sleep for myself. So, I made the decision to stop nursing at night. Our pediatrician said it was okay, and I still nurse her at bedtime, but before the bath so now there’s no window between the nursing and going to bed. She goes to bed awake. She falls asleep on her own, without a pacifier. She gets enough food during the day as well since I... more

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Your Scratching Baby – Tips For Soothing Skin And Stopping The Itch

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One of the most frustrating situations any parent can be faced with is a baby who scratches. There are many causes for itchy skin, but sometimes it can seem like a true mystery to figure out just what’s behind the irritation your baby is dealing with. The good news is that there are some general treatments and techniques that may help alleviate or at least cut down on the itchy skin that causes your baby to scratch. The first thing to keep in mind is that if your baby scratches – there’s a reason for it. Scratching is a very natural reaction to irritated, itchy, dry, or inflamed skin, so if your baby is showing the signs of scratching more that a few times a day, something is probably going on. Working with your pediatrician to rule out any easily treated skin issues is a great first step. Eczema, allergies, and rashes are common with babies, and your pediatrician may have some great resources for you to help handle the situation. If something more severe is happening like advanced allergic reactions, your pediatrician can also help rule that out. We recommend a two part process to tacking the trouble caused by itchy skin in your baby. Number one, keep a journal. This may sound silly – but it can create... more

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