How Can I Help My Toddler Sleep In His Own Bed?

  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady. Today, I’m going to answer Eric’s question: “My son is 2 1/2 years old and I’ve been trying to get him to sleep without his mom for two and a half years. She can’t stand to hear him cry and now, he is just so set on us being with him in his bed. I don’t know how to fix this. Tonight is the first night my wife agreed to let him cry and he is freaking out. I need help. How do I get a strong little boy and an even more protective mom to help my toddler sleep in his own bed and stay there through the night? -Eric.”   Consistency is Key   The most important thing is that you and your wife are united, especially with a 2 1/2 year old. I don’t want you to start a sleep plan and not be able to follow through or have your wife come in and change the plan. What happens is that you end up trying to sleep coach every other night and it will create a lot of crying (not to mention creating stress between you and your... more

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The 2-Year Sleep Regression

Many parents breathe a sigh of relief once their child hits the toddler years. But then you’re dealing with molars, budding independence, and (for some) potty training. Logically, we think that development keeps moving forward, but when it comes to two year olds, you’ll notice that there’s a bit of backsliding as they learn new skills and grow up a bit, which includes the potential for another sleep regression. You may find that your 2 year old who was sleeping perfectly every night is now up multiple times. Or your partially potty trained toddler suddenly can’t remember to use the bathroom half the time. Or maybe your perfect napper suddenly screams all through naptime. The 2-year sleep regression is enough to drive parents crazy with all of the development and changes that are occurring. In reality, it’s a very good sign! It means that your toddler’s knowledge and skills are advancing and that they are sacrificing sleep to master another skill. Frustrating as this may be, consider this:   Your Child’s Awake Time Has Lengthened   Your toddler is down to just one nap, and only needs 10 1/2 to 11 hours of sleep every night. This can take some getting used to, and also means that you... more

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Can Separation Anxiety Interfere With Sleep Coaching?

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  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady and in today’s video blog, I’m going to answer Ali’s question: “Hi there. I have twin 1 year olds. One of which I’d been using the Sleep Lady Shuffle on for about to 3 to 4 weeks now. He was sleeping through and self-settling well until the period of teething that lasted about 2 months which left me walking in to sleep every night hence the need to start the shuffle with tools sitting outside his door and using verbal cues at the moment. About 50% of the time this works. The other 50% of the time, we need to go in there and calm him down as he escalates. “So, I want to ask what can we do. My husband and I both agree we should be able to close the door by now. I think he’s been going through separation anxiety probably so we have to be patient. I just feel like it’s only a matter of time before he’ll be teething again. Sigh. Thanks in advance for your help.” Thank you so much for sending me this question! This is... more

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Could My 4 Year Old Be Sleepwalking?

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Would you like me to answer your toddler sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, the Sleep Lady. Today, I’m going to answer Desiree’s question: “I have two beautiful daughters who are 6 and 4 years old. My oldest sleeps great and always has. My youngest is a very light sleeper. She gets up and quietly sneaks around the house. One night she got in to the medicine cabinet and ate some medicine. And another night, the snack cabinet and ate seven bags of food snacks. Recently, she went to the neighbor’s house by herself at 6 a.m. My husband is in the army and leaves at 4 a.m. most of the time and we have chains on the front and backdoor but he can’t lock those when he leaves. “I feel that I’m either a bad parent or just have no control over my daughter. I’m afraid of what she’ll do next. I’m thinking about putting some soft music on in her room and laying outside the door until she falls asleep but I’m losing sleep over this and it’s affecting my marriage. Thanks for any help, Desiree.”   Signs of Sleep... more

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Could My Toddler Be Too Drowsy for Sleep?

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  Would you like me to answer your baby sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog!   Hi, I’m Kim West, The Sleep Lady. Today, I’m going to answer Katelyn’s question: “My 13-month old is all of a sudden fighting going down to sleep at night. We’ve had an established bedtime routine for months with dinner, bath, books, bottles, snuggles in bed and she puts herself to sleep drowsy but awake. She didn’t sleep completely through the night until 6 months but has been great ever since. “However, now whenever I put her down to sleep in her crib, she either immediately sits up and starts crying or falls asleep for 15 minutes and then wakes up screaming. The only thing that calms her is if I pick her up. This goes on for hours and it happens at night only. She might cry for a minute at the start of her daytime naps but it’s nothing compared to her nighttime struggles. Do you have any advice? Is this a sleep regression? She knows how to crawl but she doesn’t walk yet.”   Identify a Possible Sleep Regression   Katelyn, this... more

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Sleep and Toddler Tantrums

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Any parent with a toddler (especially a 2 or 3 year old) has been through a tantrum. Sometimes you can see them coming, and sometimes, they take you by surprise. I recently talked to a mom who was out at the grocery store with her toddler, so she was trying to hurry. And then it happened. He saw something that he wanted and started to scream…and scream, and scream, and scream. I can only imagine the frustration and embarrassment as she hustled to quiet her toddler, get the groceries and make it home as quickly as possible. I know that she’s not the only one. Temper tantrums are equally common in both boys and girls, and usually occur between the ages of 1 and 3. That’s not surprising when you consider all of the major changes that come with walking, talking, getting your molars and eye teeth, it’s no wonder that they have bigger emotions. Often, your toddler is learning independence, and has discovered greater motor skills, but doesn’t have the vocabulary or the impulse control to calmly tell you “Hey mom, I’m really frustrated and upset right now.” So instead, they yell, they scream, and they throw a tantrum. I’ve found that there are generally 3 types of tantrums: frustration tantrums,... more

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Sleep Training As A Single Parent

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Would you like to have me answer your sleep training questions in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog! Hi, I'm Kim West, the Sleep Lady. Today, I'm going to answer Emily’s question: “Hi. My daughter is 4 years old and due to a family break up, we have had to share a room and sometimes the bed having moved home several times. She’s always gone to sleep with no problems. But now she wakes screaming like a baby. I've tried several sleep training methods: comforting and putting her back, no conversations, lots of cuddles, but she still ends up hysterical clinging to me, jumping into my bed all hours and not letting go of me. As a single parent, I find it extremely hard to function with no sleep. I was tempted to use a lock on the door as a final option. I did use a child gate when she was a toddler but she would climb over it now. Please help.” There’s a lot of information here that I don’t have that would allow me to really be helpful for you. Fist of all, I want to say I'm sorry about your family break up. That is incredibly stressful and your daughter is very young.... more

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Is My Toddler Experiencing a Sleep Regression or Night Terrors?

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Would you like to have me answer your toddler sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions a month to answer and post them here on the blog! If you would rather read than watch my above video then here is the transcript of this week's video about sleep regressions and night terrors: Hi. I'm Kim West, the Sleep Lady. And in this video blog, I’m going to answer Maria’s question. Here’s what she e-mailed in: “My baby is 16 months old and has been sleeping through the night almost since we brought her home from the hospital." WOW! Good job! "She takes one nap a day at around noon that usually lasts for a couple of hours. Usually from 12 to 2. We usually put her to bed around 9:00pm and she falls asleep right away without a problem. “A couple of weeks ago, she started waking every night at around 2:30 or 3:00am and nothing seems to sooth her. We changed her diapers, we sing to her, we tried to feed her. We even let her cry for a while regardless of the complaints from the neighbourhood and nothing seems to work. The only solution has been to bring her to bed with us and even then she’ll wake up crying.... more

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11 Negative Effects of Childhood Sleep Deprivation

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Do you have a tantrum throwing, fussy, emotional child? If so, you may be dealing with a case of sleep deprivation. Sleep is incredibly important for all of us, especially our children. In fact, Rebecca G. Astill of the Department of Sleep and Cognition at the Netherlands Institute for Neuroscience conducted a study researching the effects of sleep impairment in children. In this study, Astill’s study examined more than 35,000 children ages 5 to 12. She was looking at how sleep affected school performance and behavior. Astill found that shorter episodes of sleep resulted in poor academic performance, and that these same children had more behavioral issues than their well-rested peers. Astill stated, “The suggestion that insufficient sleep in children affects cognitive performance and aggravates behavioral problems is of particular practical relevance given the increasing tendency towards curtailment of their sleep.” As if this were not motivation enough, there is evidence that lack of sleep can contribute to an increased risk of obesity, diabetes, and hyperactivity. Additionally, recent studies have shown that some children diagnosed with ADHD may actually be sleep deprived. So how can you tell if your child... more

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My Toddler Refuses to Go to Sleep

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Would you like to have me answer your toddler sleep problem in my next video? If so, scroll down and submit your question in the comment section below. I will pick several questions each month to answer and post them here on the blog! Hi. I'm Kim West, the Sleep Lady. In this video blog, I’m going to answer Kelly’s question. Her toddler refuses to go to sleep. Here’s what she wrote in: “Please, please, please help me. I’m at my wits end. My daughter was 8 months old when I discovered your book and she’d never slept for more than 4 hours straight. Within 3 nights of The Shuffle, she was sleeping all night. Early waking was a problem for months to come. But finally at two and a half years old, we have been in and are on an excellent routine.” Good job, Kelly! “We wake by 7:30 or 8 everyday, nap at 1, and bed by 8. She moved to a bigger bed at about 4 months ago. She runs out 4 to 5 times a night, but eventually goes to sleep. She has never slept in our bed. Two nights ago, she ran out of her room, scared of thunder and lighting, so I put her in our bed for an hour. She never slept. I took her back to her bed and she went back to sleep the rest on the night. The next night, there was thunder and... more

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